8 Behaviors That Ruin Relationships

There are a lot of different reasons why relationships fall apart – incompatibility, jealousy, dishonesty, and betrayal being some of the most common ones. But what about those relationships where you’re so in love you could have sworn they were the one? How can things go wrong so suddenly and so fast that you don’t even realize there’s a problem before it’s too late?

This may not be something you want to hear, but sometimes we may hurt the people we love and damage our bonds with them without even realizing it because of our own problematic behaviors. So if you’re in a relationship right now and you want to make it last, here are a few harmful behaviors that you need to avoid.

If you relate to these behaviors and want to learn more about what makes a relationship healthy, we have a video on that too: https://youtu.be/IwZlFG-3Y4o

Writer: Chloe Avenasa
Script editor: Isadora Ho
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
VO: Lily Hu
Animator: Naphia
YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong

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